1) MOM IS ALWAYS RIGHT
Sucks but true! No other person will love you or want the best for you as your mother will, so listen to her advice and wisdom. If she says that man will break your heart, chances are she has a huge point. She gave birth to you, raised you, knows your weaknesses and strengths, she's wise, intuitive and knows you better than anyone else. She can also sense danger like an alarm detector. So always keep her words into consideration. Cherish her presence while she's alive and breathing, because her tough love is a blessing in disguise. ( This also applies to all mother figures - aunts, grandmothers, sisters, god mothers and so on; any woman in your life who has played a large supportive role)
2) SCORE HIGH
Avoid signing up for credit cards in bulk - you can't always control your spending urges and may risk getting yourself into debt and damaging your credit score, which will disqualify you from being approved for a mortgage, a car, a loan and so on. If you want to build your credit score, inquire about pre-paid secure credit cards which places a strict limit on your spending. Once you settle down or leave home one day, you'll realize that having good credit matters a lot!
3) SAVE, SAVE, SAVE
Open a savings account! A savings account will prepare you for any unexpected surprises down the road. It will also save you from constantly borrowing from family or friends, taking out loans with high interest rates, or taking on double shifts. As you mature and settle down, that savings account will someday come in handy for a down payment on a home, on a new car, for your education, your child's education, for renovations on your property, or for unexpected medical bills and so on. So be wise, responsible and stash some cash from each pay cheque! Even better? Make a habit out of it!
4) KEEP CALM AND EXERCISE ON
Maintain a healthy diet and exercise regularly. Why? Because as you mature, your body naturally deteriorates and it becomes harder to keep the weight off and your health in check. This is just a simple fact of life and our biological "culture." More importantly, you should want to be healthy for yourself, for your family and your children someday. They will need you to set them straight! (Go back and read # 1) Taking care of your health will give you the energy to be the beautiful and strong woman that you are - inside and out. Invest wisely!
Learn to distinguish what is important from what is not. Separate your needs from wants. As you mature, you'll realize that time is very precious so you will want to separate responsibilities wisely. Ask yourself what matters more to you, why and how will it benefit you. If you're placing a bad relationship before your well being or if you're partying during your exams every semester rather then studying, chances are your wasting a lot of valuable time in life and making unwise decisions they may have some ugly consequences. If that's the case, reflect back to number one!
6) CHANGE IS CONSTANT
Here is something you should always know and expect: change is always constant. Everything and everyone changes. Your career may change, your passion may change, your friends may change, your home may change, your expectations and desires may change, your romantic partners may change and so on. Everything can change - and the sooner you learn and realize this fact, the less anxious you'll feel.
Why? Because your anxiousness will be replaced by a sense of calmness once you accept and prepare for this. Change is always constant in life, but whether in small or large amounts is irrelevant and that's the only thing that never changes. So don't sweat, relax, stop controlling everything and just let faith guide and strengthen you, because nothing is written in stone!
7) AVOID UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
And I don't mean standards, dreams or goals. I simply mean unrealistic expectations that can lead to painful disappointments, hurt or low-self esteem. Don't expect for your boss to give you a promotion within 6 months, because there may be a chance it may go to someone else. (Remember # 6). Just be the best you can by putting your best into everything you do. More importantly, do it for yourself. If you expect to land that job interview, don't hold your breath. Live your life and continue being the extraordinary woman that you are. When you don't have unrealistic expectations, you won't get hurt! It's simple.
8) GET OUT OF UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Let go of illusions. If someone is bad for you, makes you feel ill, insecure, fearful, scared, hurt, neglected, abused, confused or intimidated, then it's time to pack the bags. It's not rocket science - only cupid striking an arrow into the wrong heart. Learn to grow some balls, (yes, balls), lick your wounds, pick up your sword, re-gain your self-respect, re-focus on your priorities, (Read number 5) embrace maturity, plant your feet into reality and find someone that is more healthy for you. The worse thing you can do is place an abusive person on a pedestal. Unhealthy relationships are like a disease, it will eat away at your inner and outer beauty one bite at a time until nothing is left. Surround yourself with positive people that will raise your spirit and appreciate you for who you are. You deserve to be loved. It's as simple as that.
9) HAVE NO REGRETS
So you made some bad choices, took some chances, took a leap of faith, dated a few bad apples, had your heart broken five times, experimented unwisely, lost your dignity, your backbone, your self-esteem, your underwear and crumbled to the ground! Good for you! And guess what? You're still alive and breathing well! - so have no regrets about your past and don't dwell on the past either. It makes you who you are today. Learn from your experiences instead, embrace them, grow from them and then let go! No one is perfect. Congrats for living passionately !
10) CELEBRATE YOURSELF
No really, celebrate! Throw streamers, do what you enjoy, go sky diving, learn a new language, explore your passions, embrace your beauty, take a course, travel, taste foreign foods, laugh, laugh, laugh some more! Forgive and forget, make at least one best friend, read your favorite novels, embrace your curiosity, get in touch with God, smell the flowers, write a book, open a business, consolidate your loans, kill your resentments, pay off your fines, create solid goals, kill your insecurities, speak up, express your heart, love yourself, spend time with your loved one's, save a life, be happy, feel empowered, know your worth, learn from your mistakes, create meaningful bonds, and renew your mind, body and soul. ( I think you get the point ladies)
In other words, L.I.V.E your life like you mean it!